Do you often get depressed or tell yourself you can’t do anything right? Maybe your go to is saying you’re stupid or ugly when feeling down. Sometimes life has a way of kicking us in the gut because of something that happens, or maybe a person abandons you or betrays you. And what do you do? Do you blame yourself? It happens more times than you might think! You might think you aren’t good enough, or strong enough, or attractive enough, or smart enough…sound familiar? That little voice can get awful loud sometimes! This may not be you, but it may be someone you love that gets stuck in this mentality.
So now what? First of course, we need to become aware that we’re doing it, because once we get stuck in that cycle, let’s face it…it can be really hard to get out!! Even being aware is a step in the right direction. And if you hear someone you love doing it, you can ask them why they say that, because you think they are pretty wonderful. It may shake them up or they may snap at you, so be careful here for your own peace of mind.
If it’s you, then you need to make a decision. Do you want to let other people or circumstances decide how you feel about yourself or do you want to take control and make your own decisions? Once you realize that the best thing you can do for yourself is find ways to love yourself no matter what is happening, your life will start changing drastically.
So how do you get started? There are so many ways! One is to list every good quality you have…come on, everyone has lots of good qualities! Whether you are a great friend, have a beautiful nose, are funny and can make people laugh, are trustworthy, good at a specific aspect of your job…so MANY things! I say to write them down because we as people find it so easy to forget those good things at first when someone says something bad to us, or a situation happens that makes us forget we are really a wonderful person.
I Am Affirmations really can help here. One choice is my You Tube channel for The Joy Corner. Every week there is an affirmation that comes out to help you love yourself in a deeper way. You can also try meditations and guided visualizations to help you find peace.
And of course, working with gratitude for what comes easy for us, what we have or aspects of ourselves we love or appreciate is also life-affirming and helps us love ourselves more and more. This could be slow work, so have some patience, but you also may have a lightbulb moment that helps you quantum leap that self-love.
I believe you are a wonderful, beautiful soul…now you just have to believe it!