When life slams into you and you want to yell OW! What do you do after that? Do you continue to yell OW, OW, OW, OW, OW!!!!!!!!! For 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days or even 5 years? Do you go over and over the hurt until it turns into resentment? Maybe even living in the past so that your present is pushed aside? If the pain and hurt is from a love relationship, doe it infect or impact the next one, and the one after that?
Sometimes as human beings we need some time to keep yelling OW! I’m hurt; I’m in pain! We need to know it’s okay to feel that way. But at some point, we need to take that step forward and release that past hurt. Just like falling and skinning your knee, the scab has to come, usually followed by the itching and the healing. If you keep picking at the hurt, it will never heal. If you won’t let go of the past through forgiving others or yourself, or both, you may never get through or over the problem. That skinned knee will never heal.
So question for you. Do you want to keep reliving that painful time? If you do, that’s your choice. But when you’re ready to stop yelling OW and pointing the finger at whatever or whomever you feel hurt you, then and only then will you be able to move forward, find your path again and take your power back.